Friday, January 30, 2015

Conquer your Jealousy

This is the first installment of my series 'Living a Happy, Positive and (almost) Worry-Free Life'.
Let me preface this by saying I really don't have any 'secret formula' for living a good life. What works for me will probably sound utterly bizarre to you. But one thing I do know is that jealousy, if it's not the main thing that can kill your happiness, then it sure plays a close second.

 Jealousy ruins friendships, marriages and even worse - steals a persons joy.
While it's true that some competition is away of life, it should not rule every aspect of our life.
We all know women (and men) who's claws come out when they see someone they perceive more beautiful, more successful or more 'something' than they are.
It's such a dangerous trap. Don't fall into it!
 Because no matter how beautiful, successful, rich and wonderful you are there is always someone more beautiful, successful, rich and wonderful than you are!
Trying to be 'better' than everyone else or someone you see as your competition is exhausting! And it's a never-ending cycle, not to mention it's about as far from living a happy life as you can possibly get.
So, here is what happy people I know do to keep that ugly Green-Eyed Monster at bay.
Positive people only compete with themselves.
Every day I get up and I look for ways to be a better Mom, wife, friend, writer, Christian or better anything than I was the day before.
 Positive people don't 'keep up with the Joneses'.
 I do not care what kind of car, pool, house, clothes, et al my friends, family, colleagues acquire. I do however watch closely how they treat others because it determines if I am going to be friends with them, which brings me to my final point -
Positive people always try to look for the good in people - even if they have to dig a little deeper to find it -
Jealous people take pleasure in cutting people down in an effort to lift themselves up, which I think at the end of the day has the opposite effect.
The first rule in living a good, positive life is being happy with YOU. The good news is, is if you don't like you - then you have the power to change that!
There is so much more I could say on this but I think you get the point.
 I admit - I was pretty nervous to touch on this, but when asked about writing an article on living a happy life I would have been doing my readers a disservice to leave this out.
Til next time,


Kelly said...

Great article, Kathie!

Farrah said...

This is why you're the best! xoxo